Stuff that we need to care less about, if your goal is to be truly happy.
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A quick question for you
"Do you tend to spend time often caring about the things that makes feel good?"
OR
"Are you spending time on things that makes you feel guilt?"
Some things are really worthy of your time to think, your energy and your attention.
Simply put, some things doesn't deserves the time you gave them for.
Life always tends to go bigger as we move. But have you wondered if it is going for any better?
Investing your mental space in some undeserved feed, you are definitely losing a great deal of calmness which would turn into a disaster in near future.
What are those things actually we need to stop worrying much?
Let me list them for you with some relatable ideas and tips.
Things to CARE LESS - Be MORE HAPPY
The bygone past
I agree, it's difficult to let go of the past sometimes. You can't erase it or run away from it. Even if it was good, you can't sit all the day dreaming about good old days. Yep, past is already done. If you can derive push for motivation go for it. Or else, it's utterly waste of your day.
Don't bring up the past of someone, when they are truly trying to improve their future
Difficulty in letting go of past lies in the WAY WE LINK EMOTION TO INFORMATION. You may be seen good in public. But in your lone times, it surely hits you up. So, learn to pick useful information amidst of compelling emotions. I know, it's easier said than done. By practise, you can always put an regulator for your unfinished business with your past. Just start with listing your wonderful moments.
Social Media Appearance
Yeah sure, you should really care about your image - after all, who doesn't like to be presentable, acceptable by all. Just make sure it's not up-to your obsession!
Please put yourself first in the list of your priorities.
You see yourself in the mirror everyday. There's always more than what you look like.
Admit it, YOU CAN ALWAYS BE MORE AND BETTER.
You know where it starts...
It all starts with comparing. You with Yourself. Your responses in the moment and your mindful response when you think of it while you are calm.
Appearance is getting hyped. It's the REPUTATION that actually matters.
Introvert? Extrovert? Ambivert? There is always space to start caring more about yourself. Everything else will fall into places. Enjoy some solitude. Give your HEAD and HEART a break. Cheers.
Waiting for perfection to get launched
Another important thing you need to care less about. You see - the deal of Perfection varies from one to another. We all need to launch a perfect product, perfect routine, perfect schedule, perfect balance and what not.
Strangely,
We often finally settle on to the NOTHING mode.
One broken routine, one skipped day, one missed workout - GONE. You don't have any push to resume. That's really awful.
It not ideal for you.
Instead, how about moving with "GOOD ENOUGH" and put your shoes on and getting started. It's fine to make mistakes and learn from them. Don't let them harm your profile. Don't feel guilt. Take it as an experience. But always try sincerely in crushing them out of your way.
"Stay aside PERFECTION, I'm loving CORRECTION and COMPLETION".
A Productivity deal. Done.
Shit Load of Regrets
The biggest happiness looter - Regrets. An awful loop of WHAT IF and IF ONLYs. You can't ignore or live with it either. A solid facepalm.
But they all are part of life like everybody lives with. It isn't something new or breath-taking.
Please clean them off your space. It isn't really meant for happy living.
If there is something you need to learn, you need to analyse and correct from those moments. Great.
If NOT, What's the point of hanging on to them? There is no real value in feeling bad for those.
As I said before, the problem starts with the way you link your emotion and information. Please filter out the key notes of what was needed to be done and just carry them. Don't carry the entire shit-load of guilt.
Deal with situation as they arise. Don't bury your head in them. That's the deal.
- Related: What Regrets are worth for?
Less priority for yourself in decision making
Can you make your decision independently?
Just think about how much time you spend freaking out over what others think of your take.
Of course, we are humans. We need to consider society we live in. Especially in this age of social media revolution. We want to be loved, if not atleast liked. Right?
But line has to be drawn somewhere, keeping your love and other people's approval. Note down clearly, TAKING OPINIONS IS DIFFERENT THAN SEEKING APPROVAL. You need to borrow opinions. Digest the points behind their opinions. Not their entire opinions as whole.
Worrying constantly about what others think will only make you miserable - not happy and calm.
You know where it leads to?
You'll end up saying and doing things that don't align with your true intentions.
Start feeling good about your own decisions and your life.
Instead of stressing over, take out time to think mindfully. Read good, be content. Pause-think-act. You'd probably realise less is good here.
WORK MORE ON YOUR PRIORITIES. Life isn't that out of control. You can always change, modify most part of your day.
The process of working on this post has been a huge learning experience for me. It's truly rewarding. We need to practise to stay composed and filtering out remarks, which one should go to head and which one to heart.
Being true to oneself is where the sea of happiness spread over. I must accept that what I am and be comfortable with what I do, if only for my own sanity. That's all.
"Don't carry worries. They are heavy, always."
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What would you like to add to this list of ideas you should care less about?
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